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3 Mar 25 - preparing to go out en femme

I’m off to London again for work. 

I will be on my own on Tuesday evening as my colleagues are going elsewhere and I’m staying up for meetings and an event on Wednesday. 

I have packed a dress and shoes and makeup so that I can use the opportunity to go out en femme. 

This is quite terrifying as I have really only done this in places I know and where I feel mostly safe. London is a different story. Having searched for trans friendly places online, there is a bar recommended in Soho. This is in the gay district. I never thought that I would be going there as a member of the LGBT community but I guess that’s how life turns out. I’m pretty daunted by the idea to be honest. The point though, is that I might be able to find another trans woman to speak to about the journey, as I have never actually spoken to a trans person in real life. 

There is also the test of being out in public presenting female for a longer period, with way more people around and with no safety net. That is really scary too but something that I need to face if I’m going to socially transition because this will be my life full time. 

I’m really scared though. 

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