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3 March 2024 - regrets or making the best of it, inspiration from The Midnight Library book

 Another week passed and still no progress.

Definitely nothing can happen this weekend as my wife’s mum is coming for lunch, not next week either as mine is coming.  So before I know it, it will be the end of March and a quarter of the year gone with no progress. 

I’m reading The Midnight Library this weekend which is about a woman who is miserable in her life full of regrets.  It’s a lovely book actually. 

What do I take from it though? 

There’s a quote about how you should confidently follow your dreams.  Does that mean I should pursue my gender identity?

The general idea of the book though is that you should not regret the past, nor despair the present because there remain infinite possibilities in the future depending on the choices you make now and going forward.  

Does that mean that a happy life as Nicola is possible? Or that a happy life as Mark is possible? Or either or neither? Or anything?

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