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18 January - seeing a lot of negativity

I don't think there has been any more bad news than usual, or maybe I'm just more sensitive to it because I'm on the cusp of doing something, but everywhere I look lately I'm seeing negative and anti-trans news. 

Social media is always a double-edged sword.  It has been a great way to connect with other trans folk and find community, but it also exposes me to what the haters are saying.  Not directly, but where I see people commenting on posts from influential anti-trans people, or protesting about new laws being introduced in their countries or states to remove the rights of trans people.  This has an impact on me.  I live a nice sheltered life where everyone I come into contact with on a regular basis would be opposed to all kinds of prejudice.  Seeing these posts shows me the rest of the world where prejudice and hate are the norm.  

In the UK, trans issues are mainstream news.  The recent passing of a liberalisation of trans rights in Scotland created much controversy, but now the UK government has blocked it becoming law, whilst seeking to remove some of the rights of trans people coming to the UK.  Whilst the legislative battles probably have more to do with a power struggle between London and Edinburgh and showing who is in charge, it is still being portrayed in the news as being about protecting women-only spaces from dangerous men.  

All of this feeds my own doubts.  This hardly feels like the best time or environment in which to be coming out as trans.  

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