New year’s resolutions

So I was wondering what new year’s resolutions I should be making.
Should 2020 be the year that I act on my gender questioning and take some positive steps to do something about it. Whatever that may be.
Or maybe, 2020 should be time to put the whole trans question behind me, and get on with being who I was born as.
I can’t really decide either way, one minute I know one way is right and the next I’m certain that it is wrong and I must do the opposite.
Instead of being decisive I shall try to at least further my understanding of myself by keeping a journal of how I feel.
This is day one of 365. Or it might be a leap year actually, so maybe 366?
Based on past experience of trying to keep a diary, I will be doing well to get to day three, but we shall see.

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