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Best bra styles for cross dresser or trans woman

As I may have mentioned in a post or two, for me, wearing a bra is a major part of defining the female side of myself.

What type of bra best shapes me?

Shopping as a male it has largely been guess work, until I was brave enough to go for a bra fitting, so I have a range of styles, some more successful than others.
So, I thought I would compare and contrast a few.
First, for comparison, without bra:
Me without a bra flat chested because I’m a man

Balcony bra gives me a feminine shape

As a natural male, I obviously don’t have any actual breasts, as you can see. Even so, this dress (from Next) is still moderately flattering. Starting with unpadded styles, I have a Debenhams balcony type from the Gorgeous range Debenhams Gorgeous Balcony Bra It’s a size 32D Whig is far too tight on the chest band, and too large a cup. But, the tight band and underwire does give me some shape:

Tight balcony bra gives male chest female shape
Hopefully you can see some shape there. The shaping also alters how my “breasts” feel and it really does mould a shape that feels real to cup and press. The lace trim on the cups does bag a bit, as they’re not full enough, and being very tight, it can get uncomfortable after a while.

Non padded full cup bra gives a nice shape and feeling

My other non-padded style is Marks and Spencer.
Marks and Spencer Jacquard lace underwired non padded full cup bra
Also size 32DD because the tight band and underwire creates the shape and the more robust styles for the fuller bust have broader stronger bands. This is how it looks:
Full cup bra shapes male chest and feels feminine

There is still shape and they feel nice and real but the full cup style doesn’t push them up and together like the balcony style so I don’t think it looks so good under a dress.

Finally, let’s try some padding. This is the bra I got from my bra fitting at Marks and Spencer: Perfect fit padded push up bra. This is size 40B which probably shows how inappropriate the 32 inch bras are! Does it give me some shape? Oh yes:

Wearing this, I have magnificent breasts and dress and tops hang better, they’re in proportion to my frame and look great. But they’re completely fake. If you touch them, it’s just padding, nothing of me in there, in fact I can’t even feel touch through the cups. And this is the downside. More comfortable and great look, but doesn’t feel real and that I don’t like.


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