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Does shapewear work?

Best Shapewear for cross dressing 

I have tried a lot of shapewear over the years. Partly out of curiosity if we’re being honest (which I always am here!). But also in an effort to feminise my body shape. If you’ve not read my other blogs, that’s because I’m a natural male who dreams of being female. I’m not (yet) brave enough to transition or be a proper MTF transgender, if I ever will be, so I suppose for now you’d call me a cross dresser. Whatever I am, I’m not the shape I wish to be, so is shapewear a solution to that?
Obviously a padded bra has a very feminising effect on my top half. What works for hips and waist?

In no particular order, I’ve had shaping knickers, a shapewear thong, control tights, a bodysuit, another one which is wear your own bra and has thigh slimmer legs, and lastly a control slip (wyob).

So what shapewear works?

Well, most importantly perhaps, they’re all the pretty good at flattening the groin area and hiding my unfortunate maleness. But enough said about that. We’re trying to figure out what works for my femaleness.

Only one of my items actually reduces my waist size. That’s a pair of high waisted firm control knickers from Debenhams which has a wide, super elasticated band sewn into it. I’ve measured and these reduce my waist by 2cm. But they are very tight, really difficult to get that waistband up over your hips (even worse to get off to use the loo!) and I wouldn’t want to wear them for a long time.
My other shapewear doesn’t reduce my measurements but it does smooth my silhouette and my curves are more feminine. And although it doesn’t make me thinner, it does help with how I hold myself and posture, so I sort of flatten my own tummy without it being physically squeezed.

My favourite lingerie 

The best items I’ve found are Marks and Spencer secret-slimming-shaper-tights and their Marks and Spencer Firm control wear your own bra slip (which I’m wearing as we speak!). From Debenhams, the firm control Debenhams WYOB all in one body with thigh shaper gives me a nice figure and feels nice too.

One of these days, I’d love to try a corset.


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