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11 Mar 2024 - reconnecting with the trans community online

The ladies on Discord messaged to see if I was still around so I replied to explain my absence due to work being so busy, and that I had made no progress at all. Seems some of them are similarly stuck as they have been for a long time, others have moved forward a bit. It was nice to hear from them and that they cared to ask after me, but all in all, I think I have benefited from being outside of the online trans community for a while and not absorbing everyone else’s experiences and opinions all the time.  That I still feel the same without outside influence is reaffirming of who I really am.  Plus, constantly listening to other people talking about barriers to transitioning just reinforces my own fears so I am better to limit my exposure to that kind of conversation. 

With having my mother to visit for the weekend, I didn’t risk any kind of dressing, even at night so have not had any opportunity to feel feminine for over a week and I do feel the lack of that.  On the plus side though, my hair is looking really quite girly sometimes and I love that feeling.  

Somehow it is mid March already and I have done nothing.  I would like to act soon, but with the dog being unwell and possibly end of life, my wife is too emotional already so I don’t think me coming out to her would help matters.  It would take her mind off the dog I guess, but not in a good way. 

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