Skip to main content

15th February - there's lots of bad things out there

I made the mistake of spending a bit of time reading Twitter today and that has got me down.  It started innocently enough, I was feeling positive about moving forward with my transition and I read something positive from someone who had, and that was nice.  However, the majority of the content isn't that.  Most of it is people who are depressed, or who are facing discrimination, or getting involved in debate with those that seem implacably opposed to trans rights.  There's a seemingly endless stream of legislation banning treatment in different parts of the US, I didn't even know they had that many legislatures to be passing these laws. Then there is just the out-and-out hate speech.  

It's a scary world out there and it's enough to make a trans girl want to hide in her closet.  

One post that particularly struck my was about the regional gender identity clinic.  When my doctor refused to support any private treatment, they did offer to refer me to this particular GIC. I know it is notorious for its waiting list, but there was a thread from someone who tried for years to get a referral, eventually got one in 2016 but now seven years later, still hasn't had her first appointment.  I haven't even got to referral yet, so would be sometime into the 2030s.  

This is most discouraging.  

Despite my doctor refusing to work with them, clearly the private clinic route is the only way of doing this. That doesn't work without a primary care provider though, so I need to do some research and find a new, and reasonably local, doctors' practice that is willing to help.  

And limit my browsing of depressing social media.  

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

5 May 25 - living a lie

I’m wearing a soft crop top and Brazilian knickers under my male clothes today and it’s the first time   I’ve done so since my wife found out about my underwear.   I did wear some knickers last weekend for a day, which was nice but this is the first time I have had the crop top too.  Considering that I was wearing the underwear full time and the crop tops every weekday evening and all weekends for the previous month, this has been a big gap.  I have really been craving the feeling of a bra or crop top. That stretchy tightness of the band around my chest and the straps over my shoulders. It is such a relief to have one on now.  Because I’m a bit scared about getting caught out again I have only worn the soft crop top as that is least visible under my clothes. The more structured crop top has bra straps which are a bit more noticeable so although I really want to wear that, it felt a bit too risky.  This is so rubbish that I have to hide who I really am ...

23 Sep 24 - great podcast: Straight Wife Trans Life

I’ve been listening in the car to a podcast called Straight Wife Trans Life. My friend Dee (another closeted married trans woman) recommended.  The podcast is presented by the wife of a trans woman who came out to her after they had been married for thirteen years, she having previously had no idea that her husband was trans.  Series 1 tells the story of their first year from disclosure on New Year’s Eve through coming out to family, friends, their kid, and beginning transition.   Liese (the presenter) is really honest. She was not ok with the news and admits she reacted badly. Eventually she decided that they would stay together as married friends, but she is very clear that she is straight and isn’t going to change for her spouse. She uses the term spouse, as she doesn’t accept that she has a wife, and in referring to their marriage, she talks of her husband, as that was what she had at the time.  She is upset when her spouse claims to have always been a woman, bec...

23 Sep 2025 - a handbag?

I have not been out presenting female in public for about six months which is a long time.   The last time was my trip to London when I went out to the bar and dinner, which felt great, and to breakfast in the hotel which was less successful. At that time, I felt confident and like I could do this.   Following my wife catching me out with some of my underwear, I cut my hair, put away my clothes and didn’t do anything for a while. It seems my confidence got lost in that too, because when I started thinking about going out dressed again, I felt really nervous about it.  Probably doesn’t help that the anti-trans lobby had successes during this time and it feels a less safe thing to be doing now than it did six months ago.  Whatever the reason, I was pretty scared this time.  The biggest mental hurdle is around changing from male to female clothing, as I have to leave the office and arrive at the mall in male clothing, then be back in male clothing to go home so...