Maiden’s Journey

Back in February 2021 I wrote a post about whether I needed to be a girl or to be like a girl. Leaving aside the rather depressing fact that two and a half years have passed and I’m no further forward, how have my thoughts on this developed over time? Although this is sort of related to the “am I trans enough” question, “to be a girl or to be like a girl” was how I characterised it in my mind and when discussing my feelings with my ally friend.  The question is not exactly the same as “am I trans enough”, it starts from a premise that I am trans, but what do I need to do with that.   Back then, I was trying to figure out whether being like a girl was enough for me, or if I needed to become a girl. This framed it as two simple(?) options: be like a girl was sort of like I am, a not very masculine male with occasional female presentation; whereas to be a girl meant transition.  As I put it in that post: To be a girl, I mean going the whole way and transitioning. To actually...